In a fast paced world, when a couple decides to get into parenthood, it's a big call they take up. A call full of realisation and responsibility.
Responsibility of a LIFE!
Usually it is seen that both parents are professionals and have their personal and professionals goals in place, but we can't keep both lives in water tight compartments and sadly the professional life takes a toll of the personal life resulting into negligence towards ones health, mental peace and worst of all a LIFE we chose to bring into this world.
So professionals 'Gather your Children', spend time with them, doesn't matter how long, its the intimate connect that matters. Tuck them into bed at night, listen to them while doing so. Keep dinner time exclusively for family talk. Stop your children from watching television during the meal as they are digesting the aggression, the tone of voice and mannerism of the cartoons which we strongly reprimand without realising its root cause. As parents rules need to be chalked out clearly. You should know when a negotiation is possible and when there is no scope. Both parents need to come to terms with the same, else children are super smart to manipulate one parent against the other. There are times when we as parents blow our top off with our children. my questiuon is-Is it necessary? NO. Rather we need to be patient and not set a negative attitude trend. Roles are changing. We who are parents today are perhaps the only generation who still listen to our parents and need to understand our children as they are more vulnerable than we were. We need to walk the talk and lead by example and not just be control freaks because you know what-They will rebel!
Challenging behaviours are infact not behavioural problems but relationship problems. We need to change our strategy of parenting. The need of the hour demands us to treat our children with more kindness, patience and above all love.
Give them a pat, an encouraging touch, a kiss or a hug rather to show them that you are there no matter what. Solicit their good intentions. We need to decide how much of working life is necessary and how much is discretionary.
Even if your child rejects you, hang in there! The child is yours. Can't we woo our children back?